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VENUS-MARS ASPECTS AND TRANSITS

Venus relates to our capacity to make ourselves agreeable and attractive, to compromise, and even to submit gracefully to a greater power than our own. These qualities exist in everyone, both men and women. However, most societies see them as more “feminine” qualities, and for this reason Venus also relates specifically to our idea of femininity. For women, this means her own self-image as a woman, her sense of being feminine and therefore attractive. For men, much of this is projected, so Venus defines the feminine qualities that attract him.

Mars governs our capacity for assertion, competition, and aggression, our ability to seize and take whatever we’re attracted to. In most societies these are still seen as masculine qualities, and so for most people Mars also governs their image of masculinity. For a man this relates to his idea of his own masculinity, and for a woman it generally relates to the type of man to whom she’s sexually attracted.

Venus-Mars aspects therefore indicate how these opposite but complementary qualities are balanced. And due to the association of these planets with specific genders, they also show how the person relates to the opposite gender. Conjunctions and other harmonious aspects indicate somebody with a good balance between their agreeable and assertive qualities. These people are neither bullies nor pushovers. They can both compete and cooperate, depending on the situation. They can get their own way without provoking resentment. They are seen as “charming”, and can maintain good relations with both men and women. Men with this aspect are typically very attractive to women. Their masculine assertiveness and dynamism, to which women are sexually attracted, is balanced and diluted by the more “civilised” qualities of Venus. “Pure” Martial masculinity would give a loud, aggressive, selfish, bullying character, which most women find unattractive.

Bear in mind, by the way, that these articles describe simple aspects between two planets. In real life, many aspects involve three or more planets. So for instance, while Venus conjunct Mars on its own would be a good aspect, it could be very difficult if both planets are squared by a third, such as Saturn.

Discordant aspects, like the square, indicate a difficult relationship between these two sides of the personality. Whereas most men express at least some of their Venus qualities, and most women express some of their Mars, in these aspects the whole other planet is projected. Women project the whole of their Mars, and men project the whole of their Venus. So we get “ultra-feminine” women and “ultra-masculine” or “macho” men. Generally these people are still sexually attracted to the opposite gender, but they despise that gender’s quality. So we have the “macho” man who believes that “women are only good for one thing”, and who regards any compromise or even common courtesy as effeminate and therefore shameful. These men typically expect women to be entirely “Venusian”, without any Martial qualities. They desire women to be totally submissive and utterly devoted to their man, and dedicated to being sexually attractive to him, at all times. In fact the female counterpart for this man would be a woman who also has Venus square Mars, who projects all of her assertive “masculine” qualities onto the man. They would be sexually compatible, but not necessarily compatible in other areas. Women who appear entirely unassertive often use manipulative or “passive-aggressive” tactics to get their way. And in the long term, the selfishness and aggressiveness of the super-macho type does not make for a happy marriage.

As always, the transit functions as a “temporary aspect”. During these brief transits, men are more likely to encounter attractive women, and vice versa. Single people should therefore make the most of these transits, which last only for a day or so.

MOON-MARS ASPECTS AND TRANSITS

The moon relates to our automatic, habitual, instinctive behaviour, which is largely learned in childhood. It therefore defines how we remember our childhood and our past generally- this includes any sense of pride, shame or guilt about the past. Because our more automatic behaviour is learned in childhood, or even inherited, the moon also relates to how we connect with our family, and community. Because our moon sign indicates our automatic “default” reactions, it also indicates our “comfort zone”, showing what we will fall back upon when stressed or otherwise in difficulty.

Mars governs our capacity for assertion, competition, and aggression, our ability to seize and take whatever we’re attracted to. In most societies these have been regarded as stereotypically masculine qualities, and so for most people in these societies Mars also governs their image of masculinity. For a man this relates to his idea of his own masculinity, and for a woman it generally relates to the type of man to whom she’s sexually attracted.

Moon-Mars aspects show the harmony or discord between our automatic reactions and assumptions, derived mainly from our childhood experiences, and our capacity for self-assertion. As with Moon-Venus aspects, this applies to both genders. The harmonious aspects of conjunction, trine and sextile indicate someone who feels comfortable with assertiveness, competition, and forcefulness. These responses come easily, naturally and automatically to this person. They probably grew up in a family where assertive, forceful behaviour was normal- maybe a family with a lot of brothers, a conspicuously “macho” father figure, or even a mother who freely expressed these qualities. The Moon-conjunct-Mars person accepts the fact that many things must be competed for, even fought for. They gain security by repeated victories over their rivals.

Discordant Moon-Mars aspects, especially the square, have the opposite effect. These people, whether male or female, feel uncomfortable with assertion and aggression. Self-assertion does not come easily or naturally to them. Having to compete troubles them. Maybe they feel bad about depriving others of the prize, or maybe they’re uneasily aware of their defeated rivals’ jealousy. Being an also-ran, a loser even, feels safer.

As with Venus, Mars has also specifically different meanings for men and women. Because, in most societies, Martial qualities are seen as masculine, easy Moon-Mars aspects suggest someone comfortable with conventional masculinity, while discordant aspects indicate the person who is uncomfortable with these things. I’ve explained in the separate article on Mars how men generally express Mars for themselves. In former times, women mostly projected their own Mars qualities, seeking them in men rather than expressing them for themselves. Take Mars in Taurus for example, which suggests someone who asserts their self, competes and even fights mainly for material security. A man with Mars in Taurus simply expresses this himself, whereas a woman may instead be sexually attracted to the type of man who fights along these lines. Nowadays, however, there is less division of the sexes, because women feel more free to assert and compete in their own right, expressing their own Martial qualities.

So women with Moon square Mars would be uncomfortable with the “masculine” qualities of assertion, dynamism, and competition, even when men are expressing them. They would typically regard most men as being loud, uncouth, selfish, and potentially violent. The big complication, however, is that despite their aversion to men, they’re still sexually attracted to them.

Mars transits of the natal Moon last a few days, or considerably longer if Mars happens to changing direction from direct to retrograde or vice versa. As always the transit functions like a temporary aspect. So during Mars-Moon transits, there’s a temporary change in how easily your assertive dynamism is aroused, which may or may not feel comfortable. Moon transit to the natal Mars have the same effect, but like all Moon transits they last only a few hours, and can be ignored for practical purposes, unless maybe you’re a boxing promoter choosing the best time for a fight.

MOON-VENUS ASPECTS

The moon relates to our automatic, habitual, instinctive behaviour, which is largely learned in childhood. It therefore defines how we remember our childhood and our past generally- this includes any sense of pride, shame or guilt about the past. Because our more automatic behaviour is learned in childhood, or even inherited, the moon also relates to how we connect with our family, and community. Because our moon sign indicates our automatic “default” reactions, it also indicates our “comfort zone”, showing what we will fall back upon when stressed or otherwise in difficulty.

Venus relates to our capacity to make ourselves agreeable and attractive, to compromise, and even to submit gracefully to a greater power than our own. These qualities of Moon and Venus apply to men as much as women. In most societies they may have different significance for different genders, but I’ll discuss that later.

Moon-Venus aspects, then, indicate the harmony or discord between our habitual reactions and relations with the family and community where we learned them, and our capacity for being agreeable and attractive, or even submissive. Our capacity to be attractive is “extended” into our creative talents and appreciation of beauty. Moon-Venus conjunction indicates close harmony between these two areas of the personality. These people feel comfortable with being agreeable and attractive. Accommodating to other peoples’ needs and wishes comes easily and naturally to them- it is their habitual, automatic reaction, done without thinking.

Discordant aspects, especially the square, indicate someone who is uncomfortable with being attractive and agreeable, and especially uncomfortable with submission, or anything resembling it.

For both genders, the Moon is also connected to our attitude to women generally. Old-fashioned astrologers explained this by saying that women were ruled by their instincts (pertaining to the Moon), whereas men were ruled by their superior willpower (pertaining to the Sun). This explanation reflects the demeaning view of women that was usual in former times. A better explanation of the link between the Moon and our attitude to women, is simply that the Moon pertains to the habits and assumptions that we learn in early childhood, and at that time we relate mainly to our mothers.

Venus is also linked with our attitude to women and to femininity, specifically to the women whom a (heterosexual) man is attracted to, and to a woman’s own internalised idea of femininity. A woman’s earliest female role model is generally her mother, and a man’s assumptions about women’s role is likewise based upon his mother’s role within his own family.

We will now see how Moon-Venus aspects affect relationships and attitudes to femininity. For women, Moon-Venus conjunctions and other easy aspects indicate that she is comfortable with her own femininity, and sees no contradiction between being sexually attractive and being a mother. A man with these aspects would tend to make himself agreeable and generally accommodate the others’ wishes very easily. He would enjoy creating a pleasant and comfortable environment. He would feel comfortable in all-female company, and would be attracted to women closely resembling his mother. Unfortunately men like this are often stigmatised in our society. Women may enjoy their company, but may not be attracted to them sexually. Other men may stigmatise them as an “effeminate mother’s boy”. Even if they aren’t so crude as that, they will still take advantage of their need to be agreeable.

With the discordant aspects, the opposite applies. A woman with Moon square Venus doesn’t feel naturally comfortable with being female and with all that this implies. She may well have a difficult relationship with her own mother, maybe remembering her as being downtrodden. She may feel a contradiction between being sexually attractive and being a mother. She may therefore lose all interest in sex as soon as she has had a child. She may have rigid ideas about how mothers ought to dress, for instance, as if it was immoral for a mother to be sexually attractive. Some of these women avoid motherhood, wishing to remain sexual, while others opt for the mother’s role and are relieved to have put sexuality behind them.

In men, Moon square Venus has the same effect on his attitude to motherhood and femininity, but generally he projects this onto the women in his life. So again, these men see a contradiction between being a sexually attractive woman and being a mother. Such men may lose interest in their wife once she’s had a baby. They may have a poor relationship with their own mother, or they may sanctify her as if she was the Virgin Mary.

All of these problems relate to what comes naturally without conscious effort. With sufficient understanding and motivation, any problem can be overcome.

Transits of the moon to the natal Venus, and vice versa, are of very brief duration, and are therefore not generally worth considering. As always, their effect would the same as the equivalent aspect in the birth chart, but lasting fro a few hours rather than a lifetime. I suppose that if a woman were competing in an old-fashioned beauty contest, then a day when the Moon was transiting conjunct her natal Venus would be auspicious for her.

 

 

 

SUN-MARS ASPECTS AND TRANSITS

The sun relates to the more conscious part of your personality, your deliberate actions, intentions, and aspirations for the future, how you see yourself and how you want others to see you, and how you express yourself as an individual. The qualities of Mars are the opposite to those of Venus, and like Venus they apply to both men and women. Mars governs your capacity for assertion, competition, and aggression, your ability to seize and take whatever you’re attracted to. In most societies these have been regarded as stereotypically masculine qualities, and so for most people in these societies Mars also governs their image of masculinity. For a man this relates to his idea of his own masculinity, and for a woman it generally relates to the type of man to whom she’s sexually attracted.

The orbit of Mars around the sun is beyond the Earth’s orbit, and for this reason, Mars can appear at any angle to the sun when viewed from the Earth. Therefore, all aspects between the sun and Mars are possible. The conjunction indicates a person whose conscious intentions, aspirations and self-image are perfectly compatible with the Martial qualities of assertion, competition, and even aggression. These people feel no shame or embarrassment about openly asserting themselves and getting what they want, even when other people also wanted it. A man with this conjunction would be seen as conventionally very masculine or “macho”, which is still generally acceptable, and indeed attractive to many. (In certain female-dominated professions it is less acceptable, but these are a minority). A woman with this aspect can have problems, because although her forcefulness feels good to her, other people who feel threatened may retaliate, stigmatising her as unfeminine and “butch”. Sun-Mars trines have much the same effect as the conjunction, but less powerfully.

Sun-Mars opposition is a powerful aspect, where the two influences have equal power and equal adaptability, but are in different (though harmonious) elements. For example, if sun is in Scorpio and Mars is in Taurus, the conscious intentions and ambitions are motivated by passionate emotion, but the aggressive, competitive side is stimulated by material needs, and the masculine sexuality relies on physical sensation.

Sun-Mars squares are the most difficult aspects, because here the elements are different and incompatible, but matched equally for power and adaptability. So for example, with sun at 14 degrees Sagittarius and Mars at 15 degrees Pisces the person is consciously motivated by free-spirited imagination, but the Mars side of their sexuality is emotionally sensitive. They consciously desire great freedom, but in relationships they become emotionally trapped by their fear of hurting or being hurt. The same applies, though less powerfully, wherever sun and Mars are in discordant signs, even if not actually in square aspect. For example, with sun at 4 degrees Sagittarius and Mars at 12 degrees Pisces we have the same clash of elements, but the person doesn’t feel it so acutely. This is partly because of transits. Suppose Pluto transits opposite the natal sun. In the former case, when Pluto is opposite the natal sun he’ll be simultaneously square the natal Mars, intensifying both their departments of the personality. Whereas, in the latter case, when Pluto is opposite the sun he is still some years away from squaring the natal Mars.

These sun-Mars incompatibilities are partly why so many people are sexually attracted to partners whom they wouldn’t even like if sexuality was not involved. We generally like people who are like ourselves, and our idea of ourselves is based largely on our sun sign. Whereas with sexual attraction, the woman is attracted to a man who personifies her Mars sign. Likewise with the man, he feels more masculine when he expresses the nature of his Mars sign, even though his main sun-sign personality is very different. This is one reason why strong and lasting relationships cannot be based just on sexual attraction. Indeed, only modern Western societies have ever thought this was a good idea. In other cultures, parents or professional matchmakers will organise a marriage, taking all factors into account. Teenagers and young adults are highly-sexed, and tend to over-value sexual attraction when deciding for themselves.

Transits. Mars moves more slowly through the sky than Mercury or Venus, so his transit to the natal sun take a bit longer. Their effect could last a few days, or longer when Mars is “turning direct” or “turning retrograde”. (This happens when Mars’s apparent motion goes into reverse, as seen from the Earth. He appears to gradually slow down, almost coming to a halt, then reverses slowly, picking up speed. At these times he can remain within the same few degrees of the zodiac for a whole month. In April 2012 Mars remains in Virgo, between 3 degrees 40 minutes and 5 degrees 7 minutes, for the whole month. So if your natal sun is at 4 degrees Pisces, you have a sun-Mars opposition for that entire month. The effect of any transit is the same as the equivalent aspect, only temporary instead of permanent. So in this case, a temporary increase in assertiveness, aggression, and competitiveness. This doesn’t only happen inside you. Transits seem to “magnetise” a person, drawing people and experiences into their lives, even quite random events. So during a Mar transit, you can expect to encounter more aggressive, competitive, demanding people. Of course, this partly happens because you your own increased assertion is bringing out the other peoples’ combativeness, since they feel threatened by you. Like all transits, these are a golden opportunity to learn from new experiences, so long as you don’t just keep your head down and wait for them to go away. How to handle them depends on your whole personality and situation. For instance, a generally shy young man should probably take the opportunity to get out more, meet new people, apply for more demanding jobs, and “chat up” women whom he’d usually assume were way above his league. On the other hand, someone with a history of impulsive violence should tread very carefully at these times, avoiding bad company and excessive alcohol.

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